Divorce is a difficult time for parents and children alike, and no parent wants to see their child go through the pain and life changes that come with divorce. Thankfully, many studies have reinforced one fact: children of divorced parents don’t fare any worse than children whose parents never separated, provided they’re given adequate support and care.
Which brings us back to the original question: should you take your child to counseling or therapy after your divorce? The answer might be different for every unique family situation, but here are some guidelines to help you think through this question and ensure that your child’s transition to a post-divorce life is as smooth as possible.
Signs to Look Out for When Considering Child Counseling in CA
Every child processes things differently so keep in mind that this is just a general list and not a definitive guide. That said, here are some common behaviors exhibited by children who are struggling with post-divorces changes and could benefit from additional support.
Changes in appetite: Any change in diet or loss of appetite can underline a deeper problem, and could be a sign that a child could benefit from counseling.
Loss of interest in hobbies and social activities: Likewise, loss of interest in fun and social activities can be a marker for depression or other emotional issues that need to be addressed.
Unusual changes in behavior: Parents spend a lot of time with their children, and it can be easy to spot unusual or unexpected changes in their behavior. Not every change is due to a deeper issue, but it’s worth keeping an eye out especially during turbulent times,
Medical issues that are difficult to diagnose: While many medical issues have a physiological root cause, others that are difficult diagnose could be a result of psychological distress.
Benefits of Child Counseling
The benefits of therapy or counseling are significant and could greatly improve the adjustment process for your child as he or she adapts to the new post-divorce life. With counseling, your child can learn important coping and self-regulation skills to help them process these difficult times. A qualified therapist is also able to ask your child about his or her biggest concerns and uncertainties about the divorce, and help ensure that they understand the root of these emotions.
That said, reserarch has demonstrated that both parents should continue to be involved even after counseling in order to maximize the benefits and help promote a healthy relationship with both parents.
We hope this post provided a helpful overview of why and when a parent should consider child counseling after large life changes due to a divorce. If you have any questions pertaining to divorce or family law in CA, know that the legal professionals at White Oak Law are here to help.
You can call us at 925-271-0999 to connect with our team of legal experts today.